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Confidence Begins Here

Sometimes we can take on the world and other times we hide in the corner sucking our thumb.  Well, maybe that’s just me.  The difference?  Confidence.  What is it?  Where does it come from?  Can we create or build it?  Here’s how those who experience purpose answer those questions.  

This is a subject that comes up at our QC Mastermind.  When attendees find out they are going to be required to do an 8 minute presentation on the last day, fear strikes the heart of the majority.  “I’ve never spoken before”, “I’m not good at it”, “Do I have to?”... all statements and questions we hear.  Fast forward 7 weeks and they step up to the platform like a superhero in a cape.  What makes the difference?  You already know… confidence.  
I like to define confidence by breaking down the etymology of the word itself.  Basically it’s the mixture of two latin words, con + fidelis.  Con= with (think con queso… like with cheese).  Fidelis= faith or trustworthy.  So really the word confidence can be simply described as “with trust”.  Which then means if we say self-confidence, we mean trust in self.  If we have no confidence, then we don’t trust ourselves.  Make sense?  

What happens in that 7 week span is not just a magical event and suddenly the participant is confident in their presentation.  They learn the mindset of faith and beliefs and how to structure them.  They also learn that when we couple that mindset to the mechanics of behavior or systems, viola!  They suddenly trust the process and confidence is born!  

Take a look at this diagram.  You’ll notice that confidence is the third stage in the Experience of Purpose.  

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Frankly, level three here is where the rubber meets the road.  And the more you exercise it, the stronger it becomes.  

Let us know your thoughts… I would love to hear from you.  

Spencer


About Spencer Combs:

Spencer Combs is a business leader and author of Momentum and Mastery: The Business Leader's Guide to Fastrack Unshakeable Profit, Productivity, and Purpose. With a passion for helping others transform their challenges into opportunities, Spencer offers unique insights through his events, coaching programs, and daily text messages.


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