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The Essence of Coaching: Diving Deep Beyond the Surface - Spencer Uncensored Ep 65

Woo-hoo! Welcome back to another exhilarating episode of "Spencer Uncensored," where we're now on episode 65! It's been quite the journey, and I'm thrilled to have you all on board as we navigate the complexities of life, business, and growth together. It's April 2024, and as we cruise through this month, I'm reminded of the permanence of our digital footprints. Someone mentioned to me just the other day about a video I published years ago, and it hit me—our contributions truly do live on indefinitely.
I've been immersed in the coaching industry for nearly two decades, and it's a world I've come to know intimately. Tonight, I want to shed some light on the distinctions between coaching, consulting, and counseling. These terms often get tossed around interchangeably, but they signify very different approaches to personal and professional development.


Let's start with counseling. It's all about healing and repair, focusing on past traumas and issues to bring someone back to a state of balance. While immensely valuable, counseling delves into the why of past actions and behaviors, which is different from what coaching aims to achieve.


Coaching, on the other hand, propels you forward. It's about identifying where you are, where you want to be, and how to get there. Coaching isn't about digging up the past; it's about crafting the future. It's a directive approach that helps you move from average to exceptional. And yes, while we sometimes touch upon past issues, it's always with the goal of overcoming barriers to success.


Consulting fills another role altogether. It's prescriptive, offering specific advice and steps to achieve a particular outcome. While coaching can encompass elements of consulting, they serve different purposes. Consulting tells you what to do; coaching guides you in discovering how to do it for yourself.


Here's what coaching, specifically the way I approach it, aims to do:


  1. Focus: Helping you maintain clarity on what you want and why.
  2. Accountability: Not about shaming for inaction, but about understanding the steps taken and assessing their effectiveness.
  3. Consistency: Creating systems and habits that sustain progress and performance.
  4. Growth: Pushing beyond comfort zones to achieve and set new, ambitious goals.

Coaching is a journey—a partnership. It's about becoming the person capable of achieving the goals you set. It's about transformation, not just transaction. As we continue to explore the intricacies of coaching and its impact, I invite you to join me in this conversation. Whether you're considering coaching for the first time or are already on the path, remember, the journey is about growth, focus, and surpassing limits. Let's keep moving forward, crush our goals, and redefine what's possible.


Until next time, keep well and keep striving for greatness. Your journey is just beginning, and I'm here to guide you every step of the way. Let's make it happen!


About Spencer Combs:

Spencer Combs is a business leader and author of Momentum and Mastery: The Business Leader's Guide to Fastrack Unshakeable Profit, Productivity, and Purpose. With a passion for helping others transform their challenges into opportunities, Spencer offers unique insights through his events, coaching programs, and daily text messages.


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