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Just another article to change your boring life

It’s no secret that fear is driving much of society’s behavior in the uncertainty of today.  From my point of view I see sickness, stress, desperation, divorce, despondency, and a whole host of other negative environments on the rise.  I actually didn’t like doing the research for this article. Being someone that enjoys life, it makes me uncomfortable to unearth and deal with the “dark side” of life. My purpose though doesn’t allow for me to just stand by and see it all happening either. I believe that if we have the means or “talent” to make a difference (which I believe we all do in some capacity), then it is now our responsibility to do so.  

Since fear is the driving force for so many right now, how do we move ourselves from fear into action? That is the million dollar question.  I have spent the greater part of a decade now helping people do just that; essentially moving someone’s life strategy from playing on defense (fear) to playing on offense (purpose).  
The simple answer to combat all of the negativity in this life is to play on offense.  Get out of the paradigm of thinking about what “could” happen or what we “don’t want”. Changing your focus on what you DO want is the most fundamental piece to getting into action and out of fear.  Start thinking in terms of possibilities. Start focusing on “for who” or “for what” you do what you do (sounds a little wordy I know – just think about it though). Playing on offense will force you not to focus on the deficits in your life but rather the resources laden inside of you.  I’m not promoting just being “positive”. I’m promoting brain power – get strategic. Don’t be fluffy with your thoughts, get real about where you want to go and get on it. As for playing defense, be aware of the possible dangers; but don’t focus on them. No one wins any games by only playing great defense.  

​So let’s make this practical:
Better Questions

​As you can see, having a defense is not a terrible thing.  It just doesn’t need to be the major focus if your desire is to step into action.  I would love to hear your thoughts. I read every one. Keep well and keep moving forward!

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